Abraham explains true freedom!

(A guest asks about dealing with difficult visits with her mother, and how to ‘guard herself from all that negativity’.)

ABRAHAM: As you are understanding that that which you are most wanting to understand is to be ‘allower’ and that, being ‘allower’ will bring you absolute freedom then, you will be able to ‘allow’ HER, even in her not ‘allowing’ of YOU!

As she is speaking of those things which you are not wanting - disregard them! That is not really the problem. The warning bells ring loudest when she is concerned about what you are doing. You are not doing that which she thinks you should do! But when you are able to say, “It is alright that you feel that way! I understand,” and really MEAN it, then you will be free of the negative emotion that comes forth under these conditions, you see.

It is easiest to remove yourself physically and, if you did not have the intent of wanting family harmony, she would have been gone from your life a long time ago, you see? But as you have this other intention, you are putting yourself in a position where you must consciously make the decision that you will not participate in that which brings forth negative emotion. Now, that does not mean that you can bandage her mouth shut! For that is outside of your creative license but…you can bandage your own ears shut, you see. You can stop hearing that which upsets you - even though you hear the words! - when you are willing to say, “It is alright. I hear what you say but, this is what I KNOW to be.” Then those feelings will not be so intense within you - and you will be free!

FREEDOM COMES WHEN YOU ARE ABLE TO BE AS YOU ARE, AND TO ALLOW OTHERS TO BE AS THEY ARE!